We Are The Mothers Who Are Changing A Generation

This generation of mothers is carrying an emotional weight.

We are responsible for:

•⁠  ⁠Our own emotional regulation (despite never being shown how).

•⁠  ⁠Our children’s emotional regulation (teaching them to name, own, and process feelings as we learn it ourselves).

•⁠  ⁠And often our parents’ too (fielding judgement, soothing criticism, explaining why we parent differently).

We are parenting, reparenting, and breaking cycles, all at the same time.

A Lineage of Monumental Tasks

Every generation of mothers has faced a monumental task.

For war-era mothers, it was keeping children alive through bombs, rations, and fear.

The next generation focused on stability and education, helping their children move up in the world.

And us?

The currency is emotional health.

We’re teaching children to name their feelings, regulate their stress, and feel safe in their own bodies while we’re learning those skills for the first time ourselves.

The Weight of It

No one prepared us for this.

We hold it together all day, work, deadlines, pressure.

Then comes school pick-up. And your child has had a day of their own.

You walk through the door and they fall apart.

Their emotions are big. And they need you.

In that moment, we’re learning to do what was never modelled for us:

Not fixing.

Not controlling.

Not judging.

Just holding steady enough for them to work through it.

And then, the voices arrive:

A parent who says we’re too soft.

A partner who thinks we’re indulging.

A friend who insists we’re making it worse.

So we hold the line.

We resist being pulled into judgement.

We stay confident in doing it differently even when no one around us gets why.

That’s the real weight: learning it ourselves, leading our kids, and holding our ground through constant doubt.

The Transformation

Every time we respond differently, the cycle begins to shift.

Every time we make space instead of punishing, we change what family means.

Every time we choose leadership over reaction, we show our children that their big emotions are safe.

This is more than parenting.

It’s repair.

It’s generational change.