Biology makes sense, the world no longer does.

You’ve done everything right.

You’re loving, efficient, career-driven, running a home most people couldn’t keep up with.

And yet… your child is anxious. Or raging. Or flat-out unmotivated.
It doesn’t add up, does it?

But perhaps their behaviour makes more sense than the child who complies beautifully.

Biology Is Loud

Children with sensitive systems are acutely attuned to the world around them. In years gone by, they were the ones who would have survived.

Their bodies are scanning for survival, and when something feels off, their biology reacts.

• Rage? That’s fight.
• Anxiety? That’s flight.
• Shutdown? That’s freeze.
• People-pleasing? That’s fawn.

The world calls it “behaviour.”
Biology calls it survival.
And survival always makes sense.

The World They’re Surviving

On the surface, their lives look golden: every physical need met, carefully planned, safe and comfortable.

But survival isn’t about appearance.

Our children are biologically designed to:

• Move, explore, get dirty.
• Solve problems without constant adult oversight.
• Use their incredible creativity.
• Eat real food.
• Sleep deeply.
• Feel connected to their peer group.
• Learn from grounded parents.

What they get instead:

• Hours indoors.
• A virtual world with no roadmap.
• Safety from “dangers out there,” but cut off from real-world risk and growth.
• Parental involvement that often tips into control, not connection.
• A food chain that now lacks many of the vital nutrients their bodies need.

We’ve created an environment millions of times faster than biology can adapt.
And their bodies are showing it.

The Pressure Cooker

Did you know today’s working mother is more involved in her child’s life than the stay-at-home mother of the 1970s? (Yes — that’s a real statistic.)

We’re told involvement = love.
But constant involvement can feel like surveillance.

I’ve just walked my eldest through university applications. I’m helping my daughter choose A-levels.

My own parents? They barely entered the conversation.
I chose universities based on what they looked like architecturally in the old black-and-white UCAS catalogue. I never even looked at the course!

Our kids are under relentless pressure and we’re under relentless pressure to manage their pressure.

Of course biology is speaking up.

So Where Do We Go From Here?

If biology is sounding the alarm, ignoring it isn’t an option.

We need to:

• Decode their responses instead of correcting them.
• Adapt our leadership to the world they’re actually living in.
• Teach them body-first tools so they know what their stress means and what to do with it.
• Learn regulation ourselves so their survival brain sees safety, not panic.

Because biology won’t adapt to our lifestyle.
But our parenting can adapt to biology.

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