For the mum of an anxious, neurodivergent or emotionally intense child who has tried everything and is still ending up in the same place
2 hr interactive workshop run by leading emotional health coaches and behaviour specialists Emma and Laura, Co-founders of The Emotions Lab
Our next workshop
Tuesday 7th July
12.30 – 2.30pm BST
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You know what's coming before it happens.
A tone of voice, a look, something shifts in the air and your body feels it before your brain catches up.
And then you're in it. You can hear yourself. You can see yourself getting pulled in, saying the thing, doing the thing, becoming exactly what you swore so many times you wouldn't be. But you cannot stop in the moment. And then afterwards you can't stop going over it. The guilt, the shame. How can this be after everything you've read and everything you've learned.
You kind of know this isn't about strategies. And you don't think it's about discipline either. And you're not someone who gives up.
You've read more about nervous systems, co-regulation and neurodivergence than most people will ever know. You understand it, academically, completely. But it keeps happening anyway.
Most parenting strategies target what your child does. This workshop shows you why you both keep reacting in the same way and ending up here.
This isn't another session full of scripts to try in the moment. It's a practical two-hour workshop built on one of the most well-researched frameworks in psychology: Karpman's Drama Triangle and the science behind our innate stress response that drives our behaviour.
This is not parenting theory. It's a tried and tested model that maps exactly how two people lock into a loop together, the role each person unconsciously plays, how that activates their stress response and what it actually takes for one of them to step out.
You're not getting pulled in because you're weak, you haven't found the right approach, had a diagnosis or seen the right expert. You're getting pulled in because you learned this pattern long before your child arrived.
Your child didn't create it. They activated it.
Once you can see it running, you cannot unsee it.
What you will learn
- Why the loop keeps repeating no matter what you try and why it has nothing to do with effort.
- The role your body defaults to when things escalate, and why it happens before you have any say in it.
- The role you've been unconsciously putting your child in and why they can't stop playing it.
- Why you cannot think your way out of this dynamic (and what that means for every strategy you've tried).
- How one person stepping out of their role breaks the whole pattern consequently changing how each person behaves.
What you will leave with
Your specific default role on the triangle, the one your stress response is linking to, that is making you behave in ways you consciously don't want that was programmed into you long before your child arrived.
Why your body goes there and how to catch it before you're already inside it.
But more than that: the understanding that this is not because you have a difficult child or that you are not strong enough- it's a learned pattern. One that runs on its own until you can actually see it.
That's what changes your child's behaviour. Not a new script for the next explosion or another thing to try on them but the ability to see what's happening between you, in real time, and choose differently.
What happens in the session
You'll bring something real from this week. Not a hypothetical, an actual moment or pattern. An argument, a standoff, a meltdown, a scene that happens over and over again.
You'll map it live with Laura and Emma.
Where you went, where your child went and how you locked together. You'll leave with a clear picture of exactly what you need to do differently, not in theory, in that situation, with that child.
Why us
We're sisters raising neurodivergent kids. Their big emotions and difficult behaviours ripped through our family lives for years.
We tried everything. Until we realised it wasn't our children who needed to change. It was us.
We didn't come to this through reading or research (though we've done plenty of that). We came to it through doors slamming, meltdowns, shut downs, hearts pounding... lying awake wondering what was happening to our families.
This isn't blame. It's biology. A regulated adult physiologically transmits safety to a dysregulated child. When we increased our own emotional capacity, our children's difficult behaviours dramatically changed.
We're certified health coaches and members of the Royal Society of Medicine. Trained in neuroscience, EFT, IFS, somatic regulation and lifestyle medicine.
But the most powerful thing we bring to this work? We've lived it. Every painful moment.
