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Question 1 of 13
When unexpected stress hits (e.g., a sudden change of plans), you tend to…
Stay calm, adapt quickly, and move on
Feel tense or irritable but manage to get through without it showing too much.
Get overwhelmed, needing space or time before you can think clearly
Freeze, snap, or shut down it takes hours (or longer) to feel ok again
Question 2 of 13
After a heated conversation or disagreement, how long does it usually take you to feel truly back to normal
Minutes, I can reset quickly.
An hour or two
Several hours.
A day or more
Question 3 of 13
On a typical weeknight, you…
Get enough sleep and wake up feeling rested.
Sleep well most nights, with the odd late night or restless sleep
Often stay up late or wake feeling tired
Rarely feel rested, no matter how much you sleep.
Question 4 of 13
When it comes to meals and nourishment, you…
Eat balanced meals and notice how food affects your mood/energy.
Eat fairly well but don’t always connect it to mood/energy.
Eat on the go or don’t link food to energy.
Feel like you’re running on caffeine, sugar, or convenience foods.
Question 5 of 13
Which best describes your awareness of your body’s signals (e.g., tight jaw, racing heart, shallow breath)?
I notice them quickly and know what they mean
I sometimes notice but not always in the moment
I only realise after the fact.
I rarely notice
Question 6 of 13
Growing up, how often did an adult help you name and process your emotions?
Very often, I felt guided and understood.
Sometimes, though not consistently.
Rarely, I mostly worked things out alone.
Never, emotions weren’t really discussed or supported.
Question 7 of 13
In your day-to-day, your energy levels feel…
Steady, I can rely on my energy most days.
Generally okay, but I crash occasionally.
Up and down, I never quite know how I’ll feel.
Constantly drained, even with rest.
Question 8 of 13
When your child is upset or anxious, you usually…
Stay grounded and help them feel safe.
Feel tense inside but keep it mostly under control.
Get caught up in their emotions and find it hard to think clearly.
Lose patience, withdraw, or feel like you can’t cope.
Question 9 of 13
In busy or noisy environments, you…
Feel mostly fine and able to focus.
Notice some discomfort but can adapt.
Feel edgy or overstimulated quickly.
Get overwhelmed and need to leave or shut down.
Question 10 of 13
Which describes your self-talk during stressful moments?
Supportive and calming.
Neutral or slightly critical.
Quite critical and harsh.
Extremely critical or hopeless.
Question 11 of 13
After a long day, your ability to be patient with your family is…
Steady, I can still show up calmly.
A bit frayed, but manageable.
Short-tempered or withdrawn.
Non-existent, I’m running on empty.
Question 12 of 13
When you notice something isn’t working in your life, you…
Make a plan and take action quickly.
Think about what you could do differently but don’t always follow through.
Feel unsure where to start, so you put it off.
Hope it will improve on its own.
Question 13 of 13
Which best describes your experience with self-awareness or personal growth work (e.g., therapy, coaching, journaling)?
I’ve done a lot and regularly use tools to understand myself better.
I’ve dabbled and picked up a few tools, but not consistently.
I’ve tried once or twice but didn’t stick with it.
I’ve never really done anything like that.